(SL) – Finally, someone with the courage to really acknowledge an accusation for what it is. Ladies, be clear. If you willingly participate in sexual activity with someone, it is irresponsible of you to turn around and play victim at the expense of his or her livelihood. It’s not right. Feeling guilty about or not enjoying what you chose to do sexually with someone does not constitute rape or assault.
Watch HLN’s Ashleigh Banfield tell Aziz Ansari’s 23-year old accuser what most of us were thinking:
I’ve seen blogs claiming that Ansari and other men to need to pay closer attention and realize that it’s not okay. What’s not okay? It’s not okay for a man to let a woman willing to perform oral sex on him do it? Let’s stop making the narrative one-sided. Ansari isn’t a mind reader. If your lips are saying yes, but your mind is thinking something else…how is he supposed to know that? He’s not a genie in a bottle or a psychic. Let’s be responsible for our own actions. If you are not being forced, take responsibility for what YOU chose to do in that moment.